March 27, 1953 - July 10, 2012
In Loving Memory
VAL, Thank you for being such a silly, crazy, fun friend! You and your little pinto green car. I would always see you at Snyder's, Conoco's, up waterskiing, snow sledding or when y'all would come to my mom's or dads. When you met Mary Jane it was Pure Sweet Lovebird Forever Soulmate!!!! You two were so good together. The adventures you took her on. You two were the Couple we all knew who would be together forever!!! You always did or said and was always a straight shooter!! I really respected you for that. You always knew who you were and never really wanted to impress anyone (except Mary Jane💞). And of course ?You did! She loved you so much!) You two had such a Fairytale life! So many adventures!! I know your watching over her and always will. I know you would be really happy to know she is happy. But you see that and I can just see that big smile on your face. Because you knew her the best and always gave her the best! I will always love the two of you!!! Miss you,Val and think of you often. RIP VAL!
ChrisDee Cazier Lerch
I sadly can not say that I knew Val, but after finding out some information on him from a "Random Facts" page on the internet I can say I wish I did. He sounded like the kind of guy that knew how to have a good time, taking like just seriously enough to provide for his family and just careless enough to have a good time doing it. He sounds like a 1 in 1000000 kind of person and I am sure wherever he is, he has a big grin on his face. Mary Jane, I am so sorry for your loss and I hope that wherever you are that you are doing okay. God Bless, --James E. Shaeffer III--
fort fairfield, ME
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I most certainly did not know Val, but it seems as though he lived life to the fullest with few regrets. I feel it would have been an honor to know someone so outgoing. I know it has been almost 2 years, but please Rest In Peace Mr. Patterson. I hope that his wife (and family) found comfort in his last words.
Man, I wish I could have been friends with this guy. We would have raised some serious hell. My condolences to May Jane.
All the best from va. It is a pleasure seeing a small part of your great life. May you live on in memory. That is the true test. Warm regards.
va beach, VA
I am so sorry for your loss,
alma irene butkovich wilcox
For Joseph F. Cronin. My name was Viola Mendoza when I worked for Joe. I used to take dictation for him as he was dictating a ltr at Hill AFB, His secretary would call on me as I was good at shorthand. He would always shake my hand whenever i would run into him and he would ask about my mother, Luella Barlow. was a great man and I shall always remember how great a man he was. I will try to go to his viewing on Thursday at the Irish Wake. God Bless you as his family, I shall never forget Joe: He was unforgettable.
VIOLA M. Pinkston
To the family of Ed Nielsen sorry for your loss now he will sleep with his beautiful wife she pick nice place for the both of them now they are together love for love .
salt lake city, UT
i would like to get how you made your pride sucessful.and my cuhrch is second largestfood pantry in the city of wichita,kansas.It needs help financially for a building to be handicap accessible.Sincerly yourskevin w miller
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The world needs more people like your husband. May your memories of fun times get you through the sad times ahead. The obituary was a great insite to who Val was, it even brought a little smile to my face. God bless.
I found myself noddnig my noggin all the way through.
Val Patterson..... that brings back memories of a quiet but fun loving kid. I grew up next door to the Patterson family and remember the Pattersons with fondness, especially . Donny, you were my age. You may remember my dad (Jack Aoyagi - pronounced it Aweegee). I just watched an old home movie with you, Stan, Bunny and Val in it just a few days before I read Val's obit. What a character. I loved Val's obit!! You must miss him terribly. I would have loved to have been at the Celebration of Life to see your family and old acquaintances but I was out of town. My deepest sympathies to you and your family.
Cindi (Aoyagi) Hart
Beautifully honest - I hope Mr. Patterson can feel the reaction he had from so many people who did not know him. Thinking of his dear mother who lost a son and a daughter. And Mary Jane. Julie Ann
Julie Ann Reid
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I did not know Val, but the obit made it to Tacoma Washington! Val sounded like a very interesting person. I wish I could have meet him. RIP Val
university place, WA
I just read Val's obituary on Yahoo and having never met this man, I agree that he had a special corner on life. Life would be so much sweeter if we all lived this way and embraced life like he did. My condolences to his friends and family as it know this will be a difficult time for you. You can never replace someone that cast that much light but hopefully in death he will continue to encourage others to live the best life they can. God Bless You All!
I saw a article about you so i though i would try and find you so i could read your Obituary, It truly sounds like you had fun in life and I'm so pleased that your wife knows how much you loved her, Looking at my life, think i need to improve a few things thanks to you. Have to make my daughter's and my life and bit more enjoyable without the heart ache caused by others. I hope your family and friends take comfort in these messages even if they never have meet us, the internet is truly an amazing thing that allows strangers to meet. May you rest in peace and your memory live long
windsor england, UK
Mary Jane, I lost my brother in 2005 and he touched the lives of so many with his charismatic personality. He was 44 years old when he went to Heaven. It is hard being left behind when a loved one and best friend goes on ahead of us. We all have our JOURNEY here on Earth and I pray your journey Mary Jane, will be peaceful and happy as you continue touching the lives of those who know and love you. Rest in Peace Val and I pray that your friends and family hold you close in their hearts as you will live on in them forever, Carol
I've read the obituary and watched the video--and have felt something of the wonderful essence of his spirit. I send my condolences to Mary Jane, Ona, and Don--who will miss this creative, funny, and fun-loving man. He has left this earth much too soon.
pienza, italy, IT
I didn't know Val in this life, but I hope to in the next one. I too lost my brother at 23 and my mother always reminded me "No one gets out of here alive". The loss is unbearable alone, but with friends and family the memories keep us going. When my time comes to open that door to the next journey, I hope it's like a family reunion, and we are one family. May the memories make you smile, until we get that chance to reconnect in that reunion.
Dear Val, your obituary has made it to the German news. It seems you've had a good but way too short life. My love goes out to your wife, family and friends and may God bless you all! Best wishes from Lueneburg, Germany! Kai
I'm sory for your great loss, I didn;t know Mr. Patterson, but he truely sounds like an incredible man. I know the world is NOT better off without him. Take comfort in knowing that you were loved by such a wonderful human being.
Mary Jane, As one who has walked in your shoes, I wish you nothing but peace and wonderful memories. May your memories of Rocky bring you solace in the coming months (memories really do last a life time).
Mary Jane: What a better world we would live in if we could also be so candid as your husband. He seemed to live life the way we all should, without regrets. He seemed to combine the "Catch Me if You Can" film with the background music of "My Way!" You are in my prayers.
I did not know Val, but what an amazing man! He seemed to truly love his life, and was obviously head over heels with his wife! His obituary was on our news site here in Oklahoma and I just had to say for myself, that I am very sorry for your loss, but I will help celebrate his life as well. He is still with you and will always be watching over you. What a fun man. God bless you and your family and may Val always be remembered and celebrated.
Val's " letter of departure " made the headlines even here in far-away Europe. The honesty and openness with which he described his life was so touching. My condolences tothis loved ones he had to leave behind now.
Erik T. De Jongh
b-2570 duffel, BE
Mary Jane, I did not know Val, but from the words he shared in his obituary, I wish I would have known him. He sounds like a wonderful man who lived life to the fullest. My prayers are with you.
I did not know this man but I am blessed to have come across an article in the news and read the obituary. Mrs. Mary Jane, it sounds like you had a wonderful husband that fulfilled your life with awesomeness. It touched me so much that I just wanted you to know that even far away strangers are lifting you in prayer and asking for God to give you strength to get thru this time of grief. I can only hope to have a life as fulfilled as his and find someone to love me as he loved you. May God bless you and your family in every way. Thank you for sharing this amazing story. What an inspiration.
Mary Jane, I am so sorry to hear about val. i knew him during the "gang years". i met him right after the safe was taken. we were married tor 2 years. reading his obit brought back a lot of memories. i am so very happy to know he was so blessed in finding you. from what i understand you were made to be together. he deserved to be happy, i was not the person for him.. i am sorry he was taken from you so early in life. it sounds like he did have a full and very happy life in general and with you.. may he rest in peace, cj
salt lake city, UT
I do not know this family but God bless you ....I fully loved reading his story and his love for family and his beloved wife...if we could all be this honest.....
coeur d alene, ID
I never knew Val. I am sure of this because after reading his obituary I realize it is impossible to forget such an incredible person. After reading his obituary, I see Val as an inspiration. As a beacon of hope that there is good in the world and great happiness that will come to you if you try for it. To his beloved wife, family, and friends, I can only send out my heart and prayers that his passing may come easy to you, seeing it as a blessing that you could ever know such a person. I know I wish I could have.
Dear Mary, I did not know your husband at all, I am a 20 year old boy across the country with diabetes and has what i can call a memorable life. Your husband letter has truly touched me, and has made me believe in living like he did, enjoying life and embracing the good and bad times with the happiest of thoughts. He truly lived a good life. I wish for you the best, I did not know you, but to lose such a person must really be heart breaking to an extent I can not imagine. I wish for more people like him, in the world, and I am sure since you were so close to him, you were as great as he. John Foster
What a great story in Val's Obituary. I came across this as I was checking my Yahoo e-mail. I skim the Obits every day but never have read one with deep interest. Val seemed like someone you would like to meet. May his soul rest in peace.
I wish I would have met Mr. Patterson. He seems like he was a wonderful person. Sorry for your loss!
Val's Obit made it to Chicago. This was truly great and it certainly sounds as though Val did have a great, fun filled life. I too am very much like Val (happy and out to have a plain old fun each day.) This gives me even more inspiration to stop smoking. Rest in peace, Val.
Like others, I didn't know Mr. Patterson, but I read his obit and watched his video tribute. He has inspired me to think about putting down the cigarettes and that is a very powerful thing for someone whom I never knew to do. I pray that his family is comforted in the following days and months by the spirit of God's love. Thank you for sharing this inspiring man's journey. Patty Foster
I did not know this wonderful man but my brother also died from throat cancer so my condolences go out to his family as i know the pain they are feeling. He sounds like such a wonderful person. GOD BLESSand comfort you now in this sad time.
condolence to the whole family...i dont really know this man but im touch when i read it in news paper....just be strong to the whole family....
selangor malaysia, MA
What a man! I never thought I'd enjoy reading an obituary, but I did... because it is a true celebration of life.
Didn't know you but loved your obit. Rest in peace, and condolences to your wife and family.
los angeles, CA
Mary Jane, It is often said of a man who passes, that everyone who knew him was touched by him. As I read the comments here, it is clear that your man has also touched many who did not know him in life. Sharing his regret of what his passing means to your life may very well help countless others make a change that will not only lengthen their time with loved ones, but also enhance every moment. An amazing thing! My husband also passed at 59 years young. My life changed in that instant. Be kind to yourself, put one foot in front of the other, and remember to breathe. My thoughts are with you, and I wish you well.
Mary Jane, I was surprised and truly saddened and to see Val's story come up on Yahoo. Hard to believe he's gone. I've so many fond memories--times in KSA when you came over as almost newlyweds. Stan admired and cherished his "little" brother, Val, often spoke of his innate 'smarts" and abilities. And, it was clear that Val adored and cherished you in his low-key style. It's really hard to imagine the loss felt by Stan's & Val's mom, Ona (and Donald, too). I have to wonder what you all think of the overwhelming response to the obit he composed. I just remember a really delightful, easy-going, somewhat light-hearted, sometimes cynical, sometimes enigmatic soul who shared a unique time in my life.
winter garden, FL
I also did not know Val, but upon reading his Obituary, I could not help but send my condolences. It's good to know that there are and will be people out there living life to the fullest, and Val seemed to be such a person! I'm sorry for the families loss, however, it seems he left you all with quite a treasure chest of memories to look back upon!
bossier city, LA
What a witty and inspiring self-authored obituary. Now is all we have and we must make the most of it. Val's last written words teach this important truth as powerfully as anyone has. I wish I could have known him. May Mary Jane and all who knew him take comfort in their memories of him, and in the knowledge that he is still inspiring total strangers. You have my deepest condolences.
westminster , CA
To Mary Jane and her family. I was so overwhelmed with emothion after reading and re reading this while crying and laughing. I am also glad you, your family and friends enjoyed his time here... as it seems he did too. He truly touch all of us that posted here. We will celebrate his life too and smile when we tell his story to others.
cleveland , OH
I wish I had known both of you but our paths never knowingly crossed until today. And now I feel blessed to know this person as the man he was and will forever be in the memories of those who knew him well. May God bless and be with you in your hour of need.
Donna J Williams
Mary Jane, May it comfort you to know that Val's life has reached so many... thank you for sharing him with us. I don't know how everyone has discovered his obituary- but it was forwarded to me out here in Seattle and I have passed it on to others. Val was , is, truly inspiring... thank you for reminder of what is really important in life.
I didn't know Val. I am just a random person who heard about his interesting obituary and decided to read it for myself. His words moved me and made me think of my grandfather's recent death in March of this year. I've been coping with his death day-to-day. Some days I'm fine, other days I'll breakdown crying to some song on the radio as I drive home. It's hard, as death always is, but I appreciate Val's honesty in his final words. He sounded like a hilarious guy who would've been fun to hang out with. His obituary makes me wonder what my grandfather might have written about his own life. Strangely, Val's words have helped me feel better about losing a loved one. Thank you, Val. I hope God doesn't mind your hilarious antics up in heaven! Perhaps you'll meet my grandpa up there. Rest In Peace.
What a great letter! You had fun, love, happiness, and truth at the end. I enjoyed it greatly. My wife whom i love dearly smokes and will share your letter with her in the hopes of possibly extending her time with me and our 5 year old. Mary Jane know that Vals letter is touching thousands of people and changing our lives. Not all will respond but all are touched. Val welcome to your reward!!!
Mary Jane, Like so many others, I have been deeply touched by such an honest and real summary to a life well lived. I think it is with some envy, we the strangers, flock to wish you and Val our love and respect. I too, wish I could have spent a few weekends enjoying a drink with Val, you and your friends talking about the good old days. We all should have loved this deeply, lived so richly and leveraged the opportunities life affords us. With profound respect and love from a distance, MTW
salt lake city, UT
Mary Jane- My condolences to you and your family during this time! I do not know you or your husband but after reading his obituary I felt like I need to thank him and you! There are too many poeple who do not live life to the fullest. Thank you for the reminder! This obituray is exactly how I see my obtituary when that day comes!
san francisco, CA
I heard a snippet on a local tv current affairs show last night about a man who wrote his own obituary & confessed to stealing a safe. Made me think he sounded like an interesting guy, might be a bit of a laugh & I should check it out. So I read it and have since retread it a couple of times and forwarded it to family & friends. What a fun, cheeky, capable & loving man he sounded like. However the thing that made me stop were his comments about smoking. I started when I was only 12. I just turned 40 & after years of trying & lots of hassling from my family have finally given up (again lol). So far so good, it has been one month & 8 days (although I still crave them like crazy). Apart from my own health my main motivation to stay a non-smoker is my gorgeous son. He has been learning about the effects of smoking at school & has come home begging me to stop. So much so that it has brought him to tears. He has just turned 11. He is so young & what scares me is the fact that i was only one year older than him when I started. The other thing that made me stop & take notice is the date Val died, 10th July, it is the same date as my sons birthday. Reading Val's words have made me even more resolute in keeping strong & not giving in to cigarettes. I don't want to do anything to cause my son or family any pain. I want to be there to see my son get married, have kids & know my grand kids. So my sincere condolences to Val's loved ones. Congratulations for knowing such an interesting & insightful guy he sounds like some one I would have liked to know. But mostly I would like to acknowledge & thank Val for reminding me what is so much more important than smoking & what I stand to lose if I forget. So for my own sake, for my family & in honour of him I am going to keep on breathing (fresh air) for as long as I can. I feel like I have just found my non-smoking Guardian Angel :)
Condolences to the family. Though earth became sadder 7/10/12, certainly Heaven became instantaneously hilarious! God's richest blessngs on you all.
Mr/Mrs Mark Cole
Mary Jane, I am so thankful to have known Rocky and you these past few years. What an amazing love story you have, you both are an inspiration to me. And I have learned such lifelong lessons from Rocky, I feel privileged to be his friend. I know you two will be together again and he's up in his castle in the sky watching over you!
salt lake city, UT
To the Patterson Family , I read Val's obit on Foxcarolina and was completely intrigued with his life . What a character he must have been . What do you think Val would have thought about someone in SC reading his obit ? My thoughts and prayers are with you .
I have read your obituary man! You were a lucky man and you have lived! I'm not married. I'm only 20 but i hope when I do, i love my wife as much as you love your wife. Great idea in confessing! You are a funny man! I don't think I could pretend to have a PHD and get away with it. I go to university of Minnesota so it is really impressive to me that you were able to work with your PHD. You have guts! Rest in peace val! To his wife and family: you have my condolence! P.s I am pretty sure they'll make a movie about you soon.
Just happened to catch a small story online and had to read the entire Obit. Wow, what a blessing he must have been to all that knew him. Mary Jane, I am so sorry for your loss. You will be in my prayers. Much Love to you dear one.
I didn't know Val but I think he must have been a remarkable man. I am sorry for your loss, Mary Jane.
I am sitting here in deep thought after reading Val's obituary and watching the memorial video. Seems kind of crazy to be moved by something about someone I did not know. I re-read the obituary to my 23 year old daughter who was equally touched. I have been to Utah on a couple of occasions, beautiful place. I can only imagine the sadness that has fallen upon Salt Lake and the friends and family of this incredible man. May God comfort you all. My motto: all that I am after, Is a life full of laughter .
Dear Mary Jane, I am a stranger who received your husband's beautiful and moving obituary today from a friend in London (how small the internet has made the world!) What a rare and precious thing to have enjoyed and appreciated life so fully. I send you heartfelt sympathy.
I never met Val, but somehow ran across his obituary online. What an interesting guy. Very few can look back on life and say they lived it the way they wanted to--I hope I can look back at my life and be half as satisfied in the end. For a guy who would "do anything for a laugh", you succedded again in death by leaving those who knew you, along with many more who didn't, with a great big one! Good on ya, Val--hope to one day bumpnto you on the other side!
Hey, I'm living almost the same life as Val! When life gets boring all you have to have is a good imagination and be a skilled story-teller. I admire the Guy for confessing. May he RIP!!! God bless Mary Jane and the others who loved Val!
Pro Go Boyette
los angeles, CA
Heartfelt condolences to you Mary Jane and the remaining family...he seems to have been a hoot to know...that was the best obituary i have ever read......wish I could have met him...glad he got those thing off his chest....may God bless you and give you peace ....
I'm just a stranger that read Vals obituary. I have to say he seemed quite the character. And I always do like anyone that shows what a scam the college diploma really is. He just turned it around on them. Rest In Peace, Sir.
Mary Jane, I just want to send my condolences to you and your family.. You don't know me, but some where some how I got this obituary. On the same day July 22, we will be having a celebration for my brother who passed from a life long struggle with partying. I have to say I am in awe from your sweet husbands letter, what a man. I will use this letter if you don't mind in helping another who is having a problem with quitting cigarettes. After reading this letter I just wonder if that person will pick up a cigarette again...Hugs your way.
What a beautiful person! So sorry your life was cut short.
colts neck, NJ
I missed out on knowing a truly interesting person. Sorry I never met him and give my prayers to his family. I know he will be greatly missed. I wish my obituary would be half as good as his.
gulf breeze, FL
Val's words of life are exactly what I needed to hear during this time in my life. I did not know Val, but like many others, I wish I had. His words have definitely inspired me to live my life more freely. God bless Val and his whole family.
I didn't know Val, after reading this obituary, he was a good man. He enjoyed his life and he loved his wife. I did LOL thou. It wasn't right what he did but he told the truth in the end to the only one that could judge him. Rest in peace Val.
What an awesome gift that he has given everyone....the opportunity to see inside his thoughts and heart. I unfortunately have never met Val or his family but I wish I had. Indeed he had a great life and the one thing that many people don't get to experience, an unbreakable bond and love with his soul mate. After reading this I realize how blessed I am and I need to cherish more moments with my husband and my children. To take time for my loved ones and enjoy the blessing that God has placed in my life. Thank you Mr. Val and family for sharing such a wonderful, personal piece of your lives.
valley mills, TX
What an inspiring and honest obit. I send my condolences to your family and hope you find peace in the impact Val has made to people who didn't even know him, although I wish I had. God Bless you all!
huber heights, OH
God bless you MJ and I pray the Peace of God is upon you...
Wow, I have never met Val, but what a special person he was and wish all people could live with his wisdom. Mary Jane I am truly sorry for your loss, the loss of a spouse is unimaginable...but his spirit is so refreshing may he be with you always.
I would like to say I am sorry for your loss.I did not know Mr. Patterson but from the obituary he seemed like a free spirited person. I just want to say he wrote a beautiful memory for himdelf such a nice and caring man God Bless you at this time and remember all the good times.
A man preaches his own funeral in living his life.Val you certainly have done a good job wish I had known you.Mary I know you will miss Val just be grateful for your time you were given with him.
summerville , GA
I didn't know Val, but he was bloody awesome, at least based on his obituary. My deepest condolences to his family.
salt lake city, UT
To Val's Mary Jane and to his family, May you find comfort in your memories of such an extraordinary spirit. God Bless.
north attleboro, MA
I wish I caould have known him. He seemed to be a very loving mischevious guy. That has got to be the best Obituary I have ever Read He would win anyones heart over and the stuff he said about growing up is so true this way too my favorite was the geiser lol I got a chuckle out of that one..and cried all at the same time God must have a better plan for him to take him so early in his life. On the more serious side and the best of all Now he is not in pain anymore,and he is your guardian angel looking over May God Bless You and help you through your time of sorrow.
What a fine person he must have been to travel though life with! To all his friends and his wife how lucky you were! I wish I would have known him.
After reading the obit, I have to say I'm so in awe of this man and his outlook on life that I had to pass on my condolences to his family, and esp his wife. You all were so blessed to know this man and I pray you find the strength and courage to get through this time. Read and reread his words he left over and over because it will bring a smile to your face, like it did to mine miles away, and never knowing Val.
LOL. I THINK THIS GUY IS A SHAMEFUL BASTARD.
val I didnt know you never got the chance to meet you, but it sounds like you were one heck of a guy. And Im glad your family and friends had the chance to share the good times with you. I couldnt have written your obituary any better then you did. Thats the way you wanted it and now your family and friends should be at peace with it. You are gone from your address in UT to your new address in Heaven!
This is an amazing story. I would have loved to met this man. I actually think after reading this I am going to quit smoking. This is very inspiring and a great idea. May this man be remembered for his amazing life and his outlook on seemingly everything. Thoughts and prayers for his family!! And of course his wife Mary Jane. Honesty is the best quality and that was AMAZING!!
I was directed here by a news story on AOL that I got caught up in reading. It is very unique in this world to find someone so direct and honest that they would confess every wrongdoing they had ever done using their own obituary. I did not know Val and I've never even been to Utah, but his obituary touched my heart and I pray that God will bless you with the comfort you need during this difficult time. My thoughts are with you.
I didn't know Val but his obit touched me in a way I can't describe. My heart goes out to his wife and family. What a joy Val must have been to you all. I'm going to follow in Val's footsteps and write up my own obit, just like he did. RIP Val.
Wow man you nailed it. You will be missed.
east greenwich, RI
Mary Jane, May the memories sustain and uplift you as you go forward...not alone, but accompanied by the spirit of your biggest fan. What a wonderful gift for Val to have left all of you who knew and loved him. Blessed Be!
Terrisita L. Grant
merritt island, FL
Didn't know you Val but I would say that you gave back much more than you ever took and you are surely forgiven. Love to your family.
We have never but I want you to know I am proud of you for being so honest with your life. I also am going to write my own obit and tell some things only death can take care. thank you
What a wonderful expression of life! This personal obituary has inspired me in so many ways. Val Patterson was obviously a very special man. Mary Jane, please know that many people care about what you are experiencing and will be thinking of you at this time. Blessings to all.
Dear Mary Jane, As many before me has said, I didnt know Val. But had an overwhelming need to tell you what an inspiration his obit/letter was and how I wish I had a chance to meet you both. I am envious of the love the 2 of you share and I hope to have that same sort of love in my life one day. He sounds like an incredibly smart, affectionate, fun person and I can only imagine the grief you are feeling. Please know how many lives he touched just by writing this letter. Many loving thoughts and hugs sent your way.
I, like many others, read this from far away never knowing this man but wondering why I don't know anyone like this man Val. My sincere condolences to anyone who was personally touched by this man as I can't imagine your loss.
I truly wish I could say I knew this man. Like a few I see here, the only obituary to ever make me smile, brought me here. My condolences to Mary Jane, to family and friends of Val, as well.
santa cruz, CA
I didn't know Val. I don't know any of you. But this is the best obituary I've ever read. It made me laugh, it made me cry, and it made me appreciate my life and all the opportunity that it offers a bit more. :) Thank you.
Please accept my heartfelt condolences for the Passing of Val.... His writing really moved me. Cherish all the fond memories forever until you meet again....
Vincent A Vuketich
covington , TN
My condolences to the family and friends of Val. I am miles away and just read about his life...what a great person. Val, wherever you go on your next adventure, may you always know how much you inspired friend and stranger alike.
I did not know Val, but was moved and inspired by his obituary. What a well lived life! My condolences to those who knew him, he will sure be greatly missed.
Dear Val, Your obit put tears in my eyes. I didn't know you but after reading it I wish I had! God bless your beloved Mary Jane, may she be well and happy in life and keep your spirit close. God speed Dr Patterson, Rest in Peace~
Carl E Thompson
west valley city, UT
To the family of Val, I didn't know him at all, and I don't know you...but after reading his obituary, I can only say that I'm positive he will be missed by many people. I'm sure he has touched many lives...even people like me, whom he didn't know. May you find peace in his memories. God bless your family in this most difficult time.
new iberia, LA
I think we both missed meeting a great individual.
Michael and Susan Duck
I didn't know you, Rocky, but I thought your words were absolutely beautiful. I try to live my life this way, too, and I hope I am as ready and as full of love and contentment and peace when my end comes as you were. Thank you.
What an astonishingly full and joyous life Mr. Patterson had - that is the most amazing obituary I have ever had the honor to read. I'm sorry our paths didn't cross in this life. To his family and friends, my deepest condolences on the loss of this amazing, live-life-to-the-fullest man. May the bitterness of loss be swiftly replaced by the peace of joyous memories.
I am sorry for your family's lose. But your obit tells of evidence of a life well lived and that is the best we can hope and pray for.
Thank you Val, for the wonderful lesson you provided to thousands across the country!!! Well done!!! To Val's family......you were so very blessed, and I wish you a lifetime of fabulous memories, keeping Val in your life every moment of the day. My sincerest condolences for your loss.
I am heartily moved with his own obituary. What a wonderful person he was - I have no doubt Mary Jane lost her soul mate of eternity... He is courageous in writing his confession - oh God loves you, Val! I know Jesus was there waiting for you at the Pearl's gate. Rest in Peace
I was touched by Val's obit, like everyone else. Did not meet him but wish I had, what an amazing man he must have been! My thoughts are with his family at this time.
Wow, my father died in February, I wish he had been able to express himself like this. What a blessing to read his obit and how appreciative he was for the things he had. Wish the world had more people like him.
lynn haven, FL
After reading this obituary, it is clear that a great character of a man will be missed by many. I hope his loved ones can take comfort in his words and in their memory of him.
Mary Jane wyou must have such wonderful memories, don't let go of them - they will help you get through the days and months without him. He sounds like soneone you and your family will never forget. Take Care of you!
Word of Val's obituary made it all the way to Maryland. I, like many others, have never met Val but am inspired by his zest for life and his deep love for you, Mary Jane. May you be comforted knowing even in death he will continue to impact many lives through one of the most unique and inspiring obituaries showcasing a unique and inspiring life. It sounds like you have many fond memories to carry with you.
I am sadden to say..I didn't know Val..I read his obituary..I laughed and cried..what a great out look on life..my sympathy to his wife and family..may all your memories keep him with you always..God Bless.
I would think that this man has inspired a nation into thinking that it should be fun to be alive. Surely you both were blessed with the time spent together. Sounds almost like we should all take a lesson from this guy even in time of death there is great things to remember. With the grace of God he is off on his new journey.
Ron & Layne
pine knoll shore, NC
Mary Jane, I saw this on line and I wanted to say how refreshing to see someone who enjoyed their life. I expect you were a big reason for that, and you should be commended for giving so much love. I wish you the best!
Mary Jane, Whenever we lose a loved one, it hurts alot, but that will get better. My condolneces to you and and your family at this difficutl time. Val must have made life quite fun and interesting for you. You must be a great woman to deal with all the things he did along life. I read about him on ksl and then read his obit and I find him to be an interesting charachter to say the least. May you find peace and comfort at this time. Live life full as Val would have wanted.
north richland hills, TX
quite a person, my condolances
Hi, i never met or knew Val, I saw the news headline on Foxnews and clicked on it out of curiosity then followed the link to his obit. His obit was inspirational and left an impression. Sorry to hear of your loss and I'm sure he will be missed by many.... Tony
IS THIS GREAT OR WHAT!!!!!!!.....BOTH OF YOU GOT IT RIGHT!!!!!..........GOD BLESS YOU IN YOUR LOSS.....AND VAL.... CUDOS FOR SUCH A GRAND EXIT...I JUST KNOW GOD GREETED YOU WITH A HUGH GRIN....
I never knew or met Val or his wife but will pray for his family. Mary Jane I pray that you will be reunited with this man in Heaven. This was the most real and loving tribute to a life and to those he loved. God Bless you all,
Dear Mary Jane, Val's words are fun and loving. They have had a stirring impact on me this morning as I read them. His message leaves me wondering if I live life as well as a husband and person as Val did. I wish I had the means to have repaired his health. Sorry for your loss. My condolences to your family and your friends. As a tribute, I will be carrying thoughts of Val's simple words with me through life. Robert
Mary Jane, I am sorry you have lost your best friend as he sounded like quite a man. I don't know anyone in Utah, nor have I ever been there. My husband just quit smoking for the umpteenth time and I hope it is for good now. You have my sincerest condolences on the loss of your dear husband, Val. It sounds like you both have had such a full life of GOOD and I hope you continue to have a good life, as that is probably what Val expects of you. God bless!
To never know this amazing man is a misfortune. I admire his wit and honesty. Mary Jane, my prayers and thoughts are with you during your time of grief.
I didn't know Val either but so many people have passed around me death has become a constant in my life. I love his obit. What a beautiful way to say good bye. To his wife, may your memories and love fill your heart for many days to come.
After reading his letter, like others said here, i would love to have known him.. Wish you strenght to keep holding on Mary Jane! hugs from brazil
fortaleza - brazil, CE
It sounds like Val was as inspiring as his obituary! We all need more people like Val in our lives. R.I.P. sir. May the family and friends find peace and love in all the memories he has left behind. My sincere condolences to his family and friends, especially you Mary Jane.
After reading those words all I can say is wow, he lived the dream. My sympathies MJ. He sounds like he was a great guy.
The Artist Formerly Known as Prune
cass county, MO
Dear Mary Jane, I am so sorry for your loss. I live just outside of Cincinnati, Ohio ( in Erlanger, KY). Thank you for sharing your husband's obituary with the world! He sounds like an AWESOME husband, and you a VERY special lady! Reading it brought tears to my eyes. I wish I would have known him also, sound like he led a wonderful life with you. I am so sorry that he was taken from you so young. You are in my thoughts and prayers!
Dela Martin Prado
Dear Mary Jane, You do not know me nor did I know your husband Val but came across his story. I am first so sorry for your lost and to tell you i hope i find a love like you two had. One can be so luck....God Bless
vicky morales carter
I didn't know Val, but I saw his obit in an article online. He sounds like a hilarious and fun individual. Truly sorry for your loss!
I didn't know Val...I only saw this news article in the News and Advance in Lynchburg, VA. I was intrigued that a man wrote his own obit! Bless your family and rest in peace. It seems like he would want folks to smile, be happy and merry at his funeral...I wish his wife and family members the best!
I never knew Val, but he sounds like he was a great guy. Please accept my condolences on such a great loss. My prayers are with you.
Dennis C. Fait
I did'nt know Mr. Patterson but after reading his obituary from FoxNews I wish I had gotten to know him. He seemed full of life and funny and the world needs more people like him. I am sorry for your loss, I know he will be gratly missed.
I'm sorry to see such a vibrant and full of life man leave this world. There will be an emptiness in his absence.
Dear Mary Jane, I had the pleasure of knowing the Patterson's, Stan, Don and Val, for over 40 years. To Ona, and you, MJ my condolences in this time of need. The long time friendship with your extended family has been a treasure of a lifetime. I will miss Val, and Stan as much as any friend can. To Val, wherever you are, your last letter was meant for all of us who knew you and for all of those who hadn't met you. I live with all of the special memories of one friend to another. You were the " Conoco " Vaughn
cave creek, AR
Val was obviously a man who knew what life's blessings are. How many of us truly recognize them? I'm sure his love and laughter will continue to nourish and warm the hearts of those who knew him. Those who are remembered live. Even though I never met him, I will remember him, too.
What an amazing obituary! I did not know Val, but I wish I could have. Reading this obit has made me a better person. Thanks Val. To Mary Jane, I am so sorry for your loss. May the memories you have sustain you through this time. Hugs.
Val has gone global. (I'm reading his words from Sweden.) What an fun and inspiring way he told his story. He seems to have really seized life. May we all do the same...
I saw on the news where I live about a man who wrote and confessed to things in his own obituary. I didn't know him but by reading what he wrote I can see he truly loved his family and enjoyed life. The family has my condolences and prayers during time of grief.
Daniel Seth Pacifico
I was really touched today reading your Husband's obituary. I hope you will find some comfort in words of condolence from a stranger. He blessed my life in his death. Thank you for sharing a bit of him with us.
Mary Jane, May you find comfort in knowing that your dear Val has made a lasting impression on many (like myself) who never got to know him in person. It is special to know free spirits like Val, even more special to be cherished by them. Peace and comfort to you and yours...
I ran around with Stan and Val and Don tagged along with us at times. We had some great times at their home on Shirley Lane in Salt Lake. The open filed next door provided hours of exploring and fun. Yes growing up in the sixties was way different than today.I remember your sister Bunny. She was a beautiful young girl just sorry I never got to know her at all.
west valley city, UT
Mary Jane: My heart goes out to you at this difficult time. Val was certainly one in a million and will not be forgotten. His intellect, humor, and self-effacing way will leave us with fond memories to enjoy for many years to come. God bless you.
Dear Mary Jane, Just wanted to let you know that I've been thinking a lot about the loss of your husband. I am so sad for you. It hurts for so long, but does get easier. I saw your husband at the gym once or twice, and his love for you was evident. Hold on to that.
I just want you to know that even though none of us knew Val, he has made a lasting impression on the weekend staff at Sevier Valley Medical Center. We read the obit together and all expressed a wish to have known him in person. Many of us took a copy to share with those we love. May you find comfort in knowing your late husband has touched many lives.
richfield utah, UT
Val and his family...I hung around a bit with Val in our youth. Same neighborhood. I have a picture that we looked at recently with Val, my brother Doug, Bruce Gledhill,me, Louise Stevensen all gussied up to go to Junior Prom at Skyline. I got to know Val a bit through Bruce. My brother Doug remembers the Motor View Drive in theft fondly. Val..thanx for the memories. God rest your soul. Peace to your family. Karen Warren
Karen Warren (shields)
Mary Jane, It was with sadness I learned of Val's passing. I have such fond memories of the summer parties with your entire family and enjoyed the late night chats getting to know you and Val. My sincere condolences in your loss. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.
south ogden, UT
I too am someone that never was lucky enough to meet the man that completely consumed my thoughts with the most absolutely uniique obituary that i have ever read. I have shared it with everyone in my family and feel like Mary Jane was very blessed to have had Val as her husband, and she as his wife, I have to say I was very touched with his words. Thoughts and prayers with all that knew him.
Wow! Val seemed like an incredible man. My heart goes out to Mary Jane. I wish I had known him. I just was inspired by his obituary today and felt like I needed to send a condolence. Sounds like Val lived his life to the fullest. I learned a lot from him today. Wish he had more time with Mary Jane.
Amazing and beautiful! I don't know you, but you left a mark on my soul today after reading your obituary. Thank you. And Mary Jane, hugs to you.
salt lake city, UT
The Patterson family knows me as bronco billy....as growing up watching the Patterson brothers being the entrepreneurs that they are... Inspired me to become more than a nine to five type of person....I only met Val briefly,but his friendship, knowledge will be greatly missed by all.........respectfully. Steve Erickson. Aka. Bronco billy
west jordan, UT
Beautiful obit -- from someone who didn't know you but wish I had...
salt lake city, UT
Mary Jane, I am so sorry to hear about Val. He was truly a great man! You two are truly an inspiration to everyone. I have never seen two people that had such a perfect life together.You two are a match made in heaven! He will be truly missed.
Julie (Cazier) Flarity
I didn't know Val, but after reading this obituary and partial summary of his life, I would LOVE to have known and associated with this man. God bless his loved ones. He's going to leave a huge hole in their lives, but may the Lord bless and comfort them and warm memories of him help fill the void until they meet again.
salt lake city, UT